He gave the term Mama's Boy a whole new meaning.

"Jodie, my Jodie"(Taraji P. Henson Voice). Whenever I think of a mama's boy the movie Baby Boy is the first thing that comes to mind. We as women have all at least once in our lives had a mama's boy. He lived in her basement, we let him drive our cars while we went to work. He sat home and played some type of video game all day or hung out with his other unemployed friends. We cooked great meals for him, washed his clothes and satisfied his sexual appetite. All to our detriment and his. Why we allowed such things to go on is beyond me. Now I know you are saying, "Hey Salome. I thought this was a blog about good black men?" It is. Just sit back and read in between the lines. I gave this entry the title that I did because I have a friend who gave me a totally different perspective on what I thought a mama's boy was. By no means does he live in his mama's basement. He is gainfully employed. He has his own home, pays his own bills and washes his own clothes. Now I'm not sure he can cook because I've never seen him do it nor have I tasted any of his creations but I know he can order some mean carryout. Anyway moving along. Let me pen you a tale of a delicious black man that changed my ideals of the traditional mama's boy.

Last year my friend's mother became very sick and had to be hospitalized. She was actually in the hospital for a little over a month. Now in my world when mama gets sick the daughters or sisters are usually the ones who take care of her and the sons or husbands (whatever male happens to be responsible in the family ) they just show up to ask questions and run errands. Not in this case. My friend lives three hours away and for the duration of his mother's illness he would get off from work on Friday come to Baltimore, go directly to his mother's bedside and stay with her until late on Sunday evening. Then he would take another long three hour ride back home. During his time here he would question the doctors, analyze her test results, give commands to other family members on what should and shouldn't be done in reference to her care. He is a born dictator (LOL) so I expected nothing less of him. What I didn't expect was to see him like I had never seen him before. I watched him as he agonized over whether he should cry about his mother's situation. Watched him as he recited out loud both Bible and Qu'ranic verse to comfort himself. I read his Facebook statuses that were actually prayers for his mother. Watched his face light up when he talked about the progress that she was making towards recovery. Even after his mother was released from the hospital his routine didn't change. On Friday he was here to wash her clothes, take her to her appointments, run her errands, take her to church and basically do whatever she needed him to do. Now that's the type of Mama's boy I would want my son to be. A very responsible, loving and respectful man. Watching my friend made me wonder if women should view a man's relationship with his mother before deciding to take a journey with him and if once viewing that relationship would it deter or encourage us to continue on with that person. I believe you can learn a lot about how a man will treat you by watching how he treats the first woman who ever loved him. Just my opinion.

Anyway my friend is delicious because he is a mama's boy not because he is dependent on her for survival but because he really loves his mama and demonstrated that in a way that I have never seen. Kudos to him and to his mom for raising such a great son. Until next week I leave you with a couple of food for thought questions to ponder and make comments on and also with the words from the song A Song For Mama which was sung by Boys II Men for the movie Soul Food and a picture of a very delicious man. As always have a great week. Church Hugs Gents, Diva Waves Ladies.

You taught me everything

Everything you've given me

I'll always keep it inside

You're the driving force in my life, yeah




There isn't anything

Or anyone that I could be

And it just wouldn't feel right

If I didn't have you by my side




You were there for me to love and care for me

When skies were gray

Whenever I was down

You were always there to comfort me




And no one else can be

What you have been to me you will always be

You will always be the girl

In my life for all times




Mama, Mama you know I love you

Mama, Mama you're the queen of my heart

Your love is like tears from the stars

Mama I just want you to know lovin' you is like food to my soul

Yes it is, yes it is, oh, yes it is, yes it is, yes it is oh.

Question: Is it important for women to view a man's relationship with his mother first before deciding to become his mate?

Do you believe that the way a man treats his mother is ultimately how he will treat all the women in his life?